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Amor Fati: Accept and Love Everything that Happens


It’s just so hard at times.

We’re bold and ambitious and think we can bend everything straight.

But we can’t. We can’t change reality. The second we realize something it’s already gone. It’s like grabbing at the wind. It’s there one second and you’re quick to reach out for it and baam – it’s gone. Ungrabbable.

And if we think about it, acceptance is really the only option. The opposite is to oppose everything that happens. To fight reality. Fight what is. What a shitty life? A life of opposition, hatred, and unhappiness. Not an option.

We need to learn that things happen as they do – sometimes seemingly good, sometimes seemingly bad. We don’t always get it our way. Unless…

Unless we choose that whatever way it is, is our way. When we choose to amor fati – to love everything that happens, to love our fate – then we will always get it our way.

Because the way it is, is the way it is. Unchangable. And therefore it must be good (even if it sucks).

And if you think now, “This sucks a whale, coz I’ve got no say at my life at all…”

…Then you’re mistaken. Your actions of today shape your tomorrow. And to accept and love whatever happens will help you shape it your way. Dive in.

What Does “Amor Fati” Mean? A Definition & Explanation

What the heck is the meaning of amor fati?

Let’s find out the answer to this question. Further, you’ll learn a helpful Stoic metaphor to understand the idea better. And you’ll learn what amor fati does not mean. Dig in.

From Nietzsche back to Stoicism

“My formula for what is great in mankind is amor fati: not to wish for anything other than that which is; whether behind, ahead, or for all eternity. Not just to put up with the inevitable – much less to hide it from oneself, for all idealism is lying to oneself in the face of the necessary – but to love it.” –Nietzsche

The term amor fati goes back to 19th century German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche. (Interesting fact: It was Nietzsche who wrote the famous maxim: “What doesn’t kill me makes me stronger.”)

The meaning of amor fati is the love of fate, the loving acceptance of your fate, or simply, to love everything that happens.

Loving everything that happens includes not wishing for anything other than what is. This was basically Nietzsche’s formula for a happy life: Do not wish for reality to be any different, rather accept and even love whatever happens.

Nearly two millennia earlier, Epictetus, one of the Stoic leaders, had a similar formula for a smoothly flowing life:

“Seek not for events to happen as you wish but rather wish for events to happen as they do and your life will go smoothly.”

This is powerful.

Stoicism calls it the “art of acquiescence” – to accept rather than fight every little thing. Stoic acceptance. And it can very well be compared to Nietzsche’s amor fati.

Another Stoic philosopher, Marcus Aurelius, “speaks of a need to ‘find satisfaction’ in the external events that befall us, that we should ‘greet them joyfully’, ‘accept them with pleasure’, ‘love’ them and ‘will’ them to happen as determined by our fate.” (Donald Robertson, Stoicism and the Art of Happiness)

The Stoics tried to cultivate acceptance to whatever happened to them. ‘If this is the will of Nature then so be it.’ Most events happen without you having a say in the matter. You can either enjoy and love whatever happens, or you get dragged along anyway.

The Stoics used a striking metaphor to explain this:

Metaphor: Dog Leashed to a Moving Cart

The dog and cart metaphor.

“Fate leads the willing, and drags along the reluctant.” – Seneca

The Stoics used the “dog leashed to a cart” metaphor:

The wise man is like a dog leashed to a moving cart, running joyfully alongside and smoothly keeping pace with it, whereas a foolish man is like a dog that grumbly struggles against the leash but finds himself dragged alongside the cart anyway.

The moving cart stands for your life and everything that happens. The dog stands for us. Either we enjoy the ride and make the best of our life’s journey, or we fight against everything that happens and get dragged along anyway. We can fight as much as we want, the cart moves in whatever direction it wants to – up & down and through mud & dirt.

Things happen in life, good or bad, and as soon as they have happened, we can’t change them. They are there just like the muddy uphill road. It might be painful, it might suck. But you cannot change the situation itself, you cannot magically flatten and dry the muddy hill. You can only change what you make of it – muddy or not.

Which dog has the better life?

Both dogs are in the same situation, one just enjoys it much more because he doesn’t fight against what he can’t beat – fate. Nobody wants to get dragged along, so there is really just one option: make the best of the journey the cart driver chooses for you.

“But if I simply accept everything then I can just resign and do nothing.”

Err… Wrooong.

ATTENTION: Accepting whatever Happens Does Not Mean to Give Up

Loving everything that happens does not mean to give up.

“It is far easier to talk of the way things should be. It takes toughness, humility, and will to accept them for what they actually are. It takes a real man or woman to face necessity.” – Ryan Holiday

Accepting what is takes much more than fighting what is.

It’s easy to grouch about the way things are. It’s much more difficult to accept and even love the things however they are. This is far from passive resignation. The Stoic acceptance of what happens and to face necessity takes toughness, humility, and will.

The argument that “there is no sense in doing anything if everything happens as it does” is just plain lazy. And it’s an excuse. Again, it takes so much more to accept rather than fight everything that happens.

And even though you cannot decide what exact events happen in your life, the outcomes of those events still often depend on your actions. It is your actions of today that shape the events of your tomorrow.

Look, just because you try to love what happened does not mean you condone it or approve of it. It just means that you understand that you cannot change it and that it’s your best option to accept it and try to make the best of it. And then take the smartest actions from this Stoic acceptance.

“No one wants their children to get sick, no one wants to be in a car accident; but when these things happen, how can it be helpful to mentally argue with them?” – Byron Katie

Things suck sometimes. That’s for sure. But it doesn’t help to fight with them.

Why fighting with reality sucks we’ll learn in the next part. First, let’s quickly recap the first part.

Quick Recap: Amor fati is a Latin term coined by Nietzsche and means loving acceptance of your fate. The idea is to love everything that happens. Already the Stoics said that the key to a smoothly flowing life was to wish for events to happen as they do. This has nothing to do with passive resignation as it takes much more to accept rather than fight everything that happens. Your actions do matter.

Why Is It so Powerful to Love Everything that Happens?

Why should we try to love everything that happens?

Let’s look at the No 1 reason why you should accept and love everything that happens. Also, why you should quit musturbation, and how legendary inventor Thomas Edison enjoyed watching his factory burning down.

What You Control: Stay in Your Business

Focus on what you control. Stay in your business and don't fight with reality.

“Floods will rob us of one thing, fire of another. These are conditions of our existence which we cannot change. What we can do is adopt a noble spirit, such a spirit as befits a good person, so that we may bear up bravely under all that fortune sends us and bring our wills into tune with nature’s.” – Seneca

For the most part, we have no control over our lives (remember the moving cart we’re leashed to?).

Floods and fires might have robbed the ancient Stoics of their homes and harvest. Today such natural catastrophes still happen, but we mostly have different enemies in our everyday lives. Drivers and colleagues that drive us mad, tackers that don’t work, and serious stuff such as illness or a lost job.

Point is, many things happen to us that we have no control over. We can’t change those things. They are basically not our business. Our business is only what we make of those things. I love how Byron Katie puts it in her book Loving What Is:

“I can find only three kinds of business in the universe: mine, yours, and God’s. (For me, the word ‘God’ means ‘reality.’ Reality is God, because it rules. Anything that’s out of my control, your control, and everyone else’s control – I call that God’s business.)”

She goes on, “Much of our stress comes from mentally living out of our own business. When I think, ‘You need to get a job, I want you to be happy, you should be on time, you need to take better care of yourself,’ then I am in your business. When I’m worried about earthquakes, floods, war, of when I will die, I am in God’s business.”

Living in someone else’s or in God’s business results in tension, anxiety, and frustration. We have no control over these businesses. The only thing we can do is to accept (or love) them and focus on our own business, that’s all we have control over.

--> Focus on what you can control, accept what you can't.

Think about it, if you try to make the weather, sooner or later you’ll freak out, because you cannot make the weather. It is in the laps of the gods. The weather just is as it is. And so is everything else which is not in our own business.

To resent what happens is to wrongly assume you have a choice in that matter. And that will lead to suffering. Here’s why…

Pain Gaps or Why You Should Quit Musturbation

“We can see that our pain lies between what we think should happen and what actually happens. Then, if we remove the secret demand for this or that to happen, the pain-gap vanishes.” – Vernon Howard


This is immensely powerful. We need to realize that our pain, no matter if fear, frustration, or anger, comes from resenting reality. We suffer because we argue with what happens, we want reality to be different from what it is. That leads to pain.

It’s what we find in Byron Katie’s book Loving What Is on page 1(!):

“The only time we suffer is when we believe a thought that argues with what is. When the mind is perfectly clear, what is is what we want.”

She compares wanting reality to be different to trying to teach a cat to bark. It is hopeless. Reality is what it is. If our mind is clear, what is is what we want.

And yet, we end up wanting reality to be different all the time. “My husband should bring home flowers sometimes.” “The neighbor should mow the lawn.” “Our son should find a job.” “My butt should be tighter.” “The train shouldn’t be delayed.” “The weather should be nicer.”

These thoughts are all ways of wanting reality to be different than it is. This leads to a lot of stress, caused by arguing with what is (and what cannot be changed).

“Musturbation” is what psychologist Albert Ellis calls this insistence that things should or must be a certain way, the way we want it to be, or the way we expected it to be. Musturbation fights with reality and makes you stressed out and unhappy. So quit musturbating.

If fighting with reality leaves us suffering, then we only have one option: Not to fight reality. Unconditional acceptance is the solution, whether you like reality or not. Amor fati – love what happens. Because you cannot change it anyway.

Here’s an impressive example of loving what happens.

Example: Thomas Edison and His Burning Research Lab

Make the best of adversity. Burning Factory.

Here’s a great real life example of putting a love of fate into practice. I learned about it in Ryan Holiday’s book The Obstacle Is the Way. It tells a story from the life of Thomas Edison, the great inventor:

At age sixty-seven, Thomas Edison returned home early one evening from another day at his research lab. After dinner, a man came rushing into his house with urgent news: A fire had broken out at Edison’s research campus a few miles away.

Fire engines could not stop the fire. Fueled by strange chemicals, green and yellow flames shot up six stories, threatening to destroy the entire empire Edison had spent his life building.

As soon as Edison made it to the scene, he calmly told his son, “Go get your mother and all her friends, they’ll never see a fire like this again.”


“Don’t worry,” Edison calmed his son. “It’s all right. We’ve just got rid of a lot of rubbish.”

What an amazing reaction, right? But when you think about it, there was really no other option. What else could he have done? Wept? Gotten angry? Given up?

That would have accomplished absolutely nothing, zero, nada.

Instead, Edison vowed, “Although I am over 67 years old, I’ll start all over again tomorrow.”

Indeed he did!

While the fire was at its peak, Edison noticed how the firefighters were handicapped by the lack of power and light. That’s when he came up with the idea of portable search lights. Within two days (!), Edison had finalized this idea. (You can read the whole story here.)

This story shows how you can accept what happens even if it’s devastating. It’s supposed to happen and you better make the best of it. You can’t change it. You can’t undo it. You can only accept it, love it, and make the best of it. And try to make sure it won’t happen again.

Quick recap: Loving everything that happens is so powerful because it’s simply the best, if not the only, option. Fighting with what is, arguing with reality will make everything worse. It’s the root cause of your suffering. It’s not what happened that’s painful, it’s your belief that it should be different that’s causing all your pain. Of course, things suck sometimes, but you cannot change them. You can only change the way you deal with them. Things should not be any different, they should be exactly as they are, because that’s how they are.

How to Get There? 3 Practical Strategies to Love Your Fate

How to love your fate?

Here are three strategies to help you get there. I learned about all of them in Eckhart Tolle’s book A New Earth. I highly recommend reading it. You can currently get it for 25 cents plus shipping here.

Nonresistance: Is That So?

“Seneca said that Zeus is like a general and mankind his army, we must follow his lead whether we like it or not, but ‘it is a bad soldier who follows his commander grumbling and groaning.’” – Donald Robertson

Things happen in life that we don’t control.

Whether we like them or not, we have to follow those leads, like the dog which runs alongside the cart joyfully. Seneca said that it’s a bad soldier who grumbles and groans, like it is a poor dog which gets dragged behind the cart.

We should not resist what happens. It’s like the saying, what you resist persists

Here is a story Eckhart Tolle tells in his great book A New Earth: There is this Zen Master Hakuin who responds to whatever happens with the words, “Is that so?”

“The Master responds to falsehood and truth, bad news and good news, in exactly the same way: ‘Is that so?’ He allows the form of the moment, good or bad, to be as it is and so does not become a participant in human drama. To him there is only this moment, and this moment is as it is… Only if you resist what happens are you at the mercy of what happens, and the world will determine your happiness and unhappiness.”

(You can read the full story here.)

The idea is simple: Take every moment as it is. Take reality as it is. Do not resist it or it will have power over you. If you do not resist, if you take it as it comes, it has no power over you.

Here’s another way to think about it: I love how Marcus Aurelius compares what happens to us like what a doctor prescribes to us (Meditations 5.8). Just like you take some medicine when a doctor tells you to, we should take external events just as they are, because they are, just like the doctor’s medicine, there to help us.

What happens to us is basically nature’s treatment for us to get better people. Those things happen for us, not against us, even if it sometimes doesn’t seem so. We should not fight, but rather accept and love those things. And see what good they can do for us. Just like Edison did when he enjoyed the magnificent flames when his lab burned down.

Look, I know, it feels unnatural to believe that something that feels so bitter is actually good for us. But it’s the best we can do, to take it as it is, and think it is good just because it is the way it is. 

Don't resist reality.

Nonjudgment: The Maybe Story

“Watch this 2 minute video, it’s the smartest thing you’ll do today.”
– Sir Wise Butt Unknown

This is the maybe story I learned about from Eckhart Tolle. Although he tells it a bit differently (with a man who won an expensive car), the idea stays the same:

We should not judge events because we don’t know what they mean and where they’ll lead us. Instead, we should simply accept everything that happens as it is – not good, nor bad, but as it is.

In the video this sounds so easy, in real life, though, it is much harder. Obviously.

Shit happens and we get this feeling that all is lost. All is over now. We end up in complaints, pity, and misery – struggling against something that’s already happened.

Why bother, though?

We don’t know what the future brings. We have no idea what’s coming up next. It could be more problems, or this could be the darkness before the dawn. How should we know? How should anybody else know?

The truth is, things happen and we don’t know whether they’re good or bad. What we do know, is that they’ve happened. Things have occurred. There is no reason in lamenting over something that’s already happened. It ain't gonna change.

Accept without judging.

Sure, if your house burns down and you lose everything you have, it looks pretty darn annoying. And you can admit that it sucks. But who knows, maybe that’s exactly what you needed in your life situation, as dumb as this may sound. You cannot be sure that this is bad. Stay with the facts: your house burned down and you lost everything but your life and what you’re wearing.

You don’t know what opportunities will pop out from the ashes of the burned house.

Nonattachment: This, Too, Will Pass

This, too, will pass. Stubbing your toe.

“There is one thing and only one thing that causes unhappiness. The name of that thing is Attachment.” – Anthony de Mello

Things are impermanent. They come and go.

That smile in the person you love won’t be there forever. The pain you feel when you stub your toe will go away. The fancy lifestyle you enjoy so much will pass, too.

The problem with getting attached to things, people, wealth, status, looks, and jobs, is that those things are outside your choice. How long you’ll be able to keep them is not in your control.

It’s those attachments that make it so hard to accept change. Once we have them, we don’t want to let go. We become slaves to the status quo.

“Life is in a constant change. And so are we. To get upset by things is to wrongly assume that they will last. To kick ourselves or blame others is grabbing at the wind. To resent change is to wrongly assume that you have a choice in the matter.” – Ryan Holiday

Things come and go. The only thing that stays is your ability to decide what change will mean to you. You can stay adaptable and resilient. And you can decide to not get too attached to whatever it is you like.

Things are impermanent.

The third story from Eckhart Tolle I share with you reminds us of the impermanence of things and will lead to nonattachment:

So there was this king who was continuously torn between happiness and despondency. The slightest thing would cause him great upset or provoke an intense reaction, and his happiness would quickly turn into disappointment and despair.

He sought out a wise man and asked him for something that would bring balance, serenity, and wisdom to his life. Of course, the king would pay any price.

A few weeks later the wise man returned and brought a simple gold ring with the inscription: “This, too, will pass.” The wise man advised, “Wear this ring always. Whatever happens, before you call it good or bad, touch this ring and read the inscription.”

Now, this will give the king, and all of us, some relief when something bad happens. But, and way more important, it will also remind us of the impermanence of the good things that happen to us. We should not get too attached, because things won’t last.

Don’t get attached to things. Everything is in a constant change. Things come and go.

“This, too, will pass.”

Quick recap: What can you do to love your fate? (1) Nonresistence: Don't resist whatever happens to you. It's good the way it is, even if it sucks a ton. Take it as it is and make the best of it. (2) Nonjudgment: Don't judge whatever happens good or bad. Because you don't know. Something may seem bad but will turn out good in an instant. Maybe it's good. Maybe it's bad. (3) Nonattachment: Don't get attached to things. Because nothing lasts. Everything is in constant change. Attachment will cause you pain when things change. "This, too, will pass."

What Now?

“Accept – then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept is as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it. Make it your friend and ally, not your enemy. This will miraculously transform your life.” – Eckhart Tolle

Learn to accept your fate.

And then learn to love it.

You first need to accept whatever happens to you. Once you can accept it, you can try to love it.

It’s a transition from have to into get to.

“I have to accept it.” --> “I get to enjoy it.”

What helps me most is the fact that I cannot change what happened anyway. So I want to make the best of it. And I know the best is to love whatever happens. I don’t want to fight reality. It’s a game I cannot win.

Whatever happens happens specifically FOR YOU. 

(Even if it doesn't seem so.)

Amor fati, my friend.

Jonas Salzgeber

What's up? My name's Jonas. I'm Swiss (not Swedish). I'm a life enthusiast and I'm curious about everything that gives me an advantage, boost, level upgrade... "That drink will make me unbeatable? I'll down it!" Haha. My motto? Go to bed a little wiser every day & be the best version of yourself.

  • Theo says:

    Love this post Jonas! I’ve noticed myself trying to do exactly this over the past year completely organically so it’s reassuring to know I’m on the right track and to read more about it.

    It’s funny, since I’ve been working on this I’ve noticed that those around me are often disappointed unnecessarily as they often build preconceived notions of how something should happen and how they should feel and then when reality doesn’t meet their expectations they come out disappointed.

    Whereas if they’d focused on the moment they’re in and accepted things as they are, they would have received much more enjoyment from the moment instead of devaluing it.

    • Thanks Theo!
      It’s always good to read something that’s reassuring you 🙂 Glad that happened with this post.

      Yeah, this happens so often. It’s good when you notice it in others, and also in yourself. If we want to get better, we first need to be aware of it in the first place. Many people will not realize that they’re fighting with reality. Also, many don’t know it’s not so smart to fight with what is. And for those two reasons, they won’t change.

      And we must not forget that it’s actually hard to change impulsive and automatic behavior. It requires awareness and the knowledge of a smarter behavior/reaction.

      So, Theo, how could we help those around us?

  • Leah says:

    Hello and thanks for this very thorough and thought provoking post!

    My first observation is that Nietzsche’s amor fati is an unnecessarily extreme version of the Stoic notion of acceptance of fate. I tend to agree with the Stoics. Love and accept are not the same thing. It’s not necessary for you to love everything that happens in order for you to accept and endure everything that happens. Nietzsche’s amor fati is a tall order. Too tall of an order for me. I think Stoic acceptance of fate in order to maintain eudaimonia is enough. As Epictetus famously put it, “Endure and Renounce.”

    The Stoic concept of fate is quite complex, as it is tied up with their natural metaphysics and cosmology. (I don’t claim to fully understand it. I’m about to spend a semester studying Stoic metaphysics, so hopefully I will have a good grasp of it soon.) But basically, events can be co-fated, meaning you have some impact on them. Consider the following from Cicero’s On Fate (28-29):

    “The non-destruction of one’s coat is not fated simply, but co-fated with its being taken care of, and someone’s being saved from his enemies is co-fated with his fleeing those enemies; and having children is co-fated with being willing to lie with a woman. … For many things cannot occur without our being willing and indeed contributing a most strenuous eagerness and zeal for these things, since, he says, it was fated for these things to occur in conjunction with this personal effort. … But it will be in our power with what is in our power being included in fate.”

    For the Stoics, the universe is Logos in action, Nature is an interconnected web. We are in control of what we do, not in the sense that somehow we can transcend cause and effect, but because our decisions and actions are an integral part of this causal matrix.

    I myself tend to embrace the Stoic cosmology, plus the Platonic notion of transmigration of souls, or reincarnation, rebirth, and the cycle of karma in the Eastern lexicon. In that context, fated or co-fated events can potentially have their antecedent causes in both this lifetime or in past events that we may not remember or fully understand. So, yes, I agree with acceptance of one’s fate.

    However, acting according to virtue in this lifetime protects you from at least some of the negative aspects of cause and effect. At the very least, virtue promotes an unperturbed mental state which helps you avoid doing things you might regret in the heat of passion, thus creating more causes and effects down the line somewhere.

    Anyway, thanks again for posting this, I enjoyed reading it as well as the opportunity to ramble on in the comments field.

    Labore et Constantia.

    • WOW, Leah!
      Thank you for your thoughts and information. This is great.

      Love what you say about acting according to virtue and it preventing you from some trouble down the road. I completely agree. Your actions of today shape your tomorrow. And this goes hand in hand with what Cicero said. Thanks for sharing this quote!

      Thanks for commenting, highly appreciate it. Very interesting points!
      All the best with your studies next semester 🙂 I bet you’ll get an even broader understanding of the Stoic metaphysics.

      Labore et Constantia.

  • Mark Tong says:

    Hi Jonas

    Really fascinating post. I think like everyone throughout history the Stoics tried to make sense of the sensless. They did a better job than most but as one of your commenters notes, pretty much tied themselves in knots trying to make a philosophy out of it as everyone else has. Having said that Epicurus is where I’m at. I know it’s as much random nonsense as all other philosophies, but his does give you a way to live that works, for the most part. I read a book by a professor of philosophy at one of the top universities – can’t remember name or where:) – at the end of the book he said he’d been studying philosophy every day for the best part of maybe 50 years and all he could conclude was that life was some kind of cosmological joke and the only way to live was to treat life as a joke – sometimes you just happen to be the butt of the joke:)

    • Hi Mark. Thanks for your thoughts, very interesting!

      Haha, I love what the professer concluded at the end of the book.
      Maybe we’ll find the sense in the nonsense after all. Or at the butt of it 🙂

  • Very important and good information for now. I struggle frequently to accept and allow and embrace what is happening that is beyond my power, and under the regime of Prezidint 45 here in the States it’s easy to get caught up in disgust, despair and sheer unholy frustration. But I can’t change what is going on, I can only do what I feel in my heart is right, which is to love and take care of those around me. So that’s what I do. And I vote like a boss. Thanks, Jonas, this was spot on.

    • Gayla, love what you’re trying to do: to love and take care of those around you. People will appreciate it 🙂
      I’m glad the post came in the right moment for you. Although, when we listen to Epictetus, it’s always the right moment as we should always wish for events to happen as they do.

      Thanks for your story. You’re doing good 🙂

  • Dave says:

    I agree with stoicism up to a point as for me it is useful up to a point. The weather is a great example – I ACCEPT whatever it throws at me, though I do reserve the right to feel a little disappointed when forked lightning kills my children, for example…
    Beyond accepting the weather’s unstoppability, my acceptance is less forthcoming as I’m more at ease with the concept of co-causality. If I had the fat butt you mentioned earlier, I would think I would do something about that rather than just say I hate it but I accept it. Equally, if I had a problem with my child turning up late then I would have a friendly little chat about why that was not ideal and see whether the other person could understand that and perhaps change?
    On a grander level, I am not happy that right-wing extremists are raising their ugly heads throughout the world and I will do what I can in joining with other more liberal-minded people to oppose this ideology. Similarly, climate change is not something I am happy to be stoical about when it can be halted by the proper actions of governments and therefore I am happy to try to persuade my particular government to take appropriate action: I can’t just sit back and watch the planet burn.
    One of my great loves is nature – animals, plants, the environment; I know that people kill animals for fun and I am not stoical enough to accept that’s just the way it is. I am far happier doing something to ensure the laws are upheld and where necessary changed to prevent that kind of activity flourishing. My PERSONAL happiness would not be improved by observing these things happening and doing nothing – it may work for some but for me it does smack of weak acceptance, not strength.
    I like your article and it’s very thought-provoking but it’s made me react as you can see and I’m sure you will stoically accept that our attitudes are different and not try to convince me to change anymore and I would try to convince you!
    Ain’t philosophy wonderful?!

    • Dave, thanks for your wonderful comment.

      I agree with you.
      The Stoics don’t tell us to sit back and do nothing about situations we don’t like. They say acceptance is your best chance not to get overwhelmed and irrationally emotional about it. But then, it’s crucially important to take the necessary action upon it. Start with acceptance and move from there.
      The point is, right now, it is as it is. You can’t argue with that. Which doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do your best to change it for the better.
      You can complain about something, just not with your whole being. That would bear the risk of getting unhappy over something you can’t change (for now).

      As Epictetus says, “Make the best use of what is in your power, and take the rest as it happens.”
      So go for the things you mentioned in your comment, the world needs people who fight for those things. Just don’t expect you can change the world within a day. That’s where I find Stoicism helps — you do your best in what you control, but don’t get too moved about what’s beyond your control.

      I hope that makes sense.
      Philosophy is wonderful 🙂

      • Gilbonz111 says:

        Yes, I was thinking a little along the way that Dave was, that “acceptance” and “non-judgement” could be used as an excuse to do nothing. But I see now it’s usefulness as interim steps to “preventing the overwhelm” that can crush you and actually be the cause of oneself doing nothing.

        By remaining calm, or at least accepting of what has happened, you have more energy left to make an informed decision about whether to do something about changing that thing you believe could be improved, or moving on to some other endeavour without any negative “attachment” to the event (that you’ve decided not to attempt to improve). Whew! That sentence was getting a bit long so I shortened it, but the gist is there.

        I learnt something like this 30 odd years ago, before the internet, from a author using a mix of Bhuddism, Christianity and Taoism, named Stuart Wilde. The saying which sticks with me is “what is and what should be, are two different things.”
        This was a huge wake up call for me at the time. It’s helped me to “don’t sweat the small stuff.” I think I’m ready to move up a level now and finally take on the second part of that saying, “(it’s all small stuff.)”

        Seems like a very long time has passed, and I put it down to becoming an atheist during that time. I didn’t know how to develop my spiritual side, even though I knew it is part of the “whole” person we all are.

        Stoicism is my new spiritual, philosophical journey. I look forward to travelling with you Jonas.
        Gilbert O’Sughrue

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  • Dinesh Vijayakumar says:


    Thanks for the great post. I got fascinated so much about the Stoicism teaching about practical ways of being happy and contented.

    I also amazed to see that Stoicism is providing real-life ways to follow the great ideals spoken by great leaders of the world like Mahatma Gandhi about to change ourselves to see the change outside (of course it’s not in our control).

    Also it talks about the pearl principle which is embedded in many eastern religions like Buddhism, Jainism and Hinduism – “Non-attachment”. Stoicism really makes me to feel confident that I can lead a non-attached life without going to forest and live an isolated life.

    Thanks for writing such great article!

    • Thank you, Dinesh 🙂

      Yes, Stoicism is so practical. That’s where its value can be found.

      You’re right, there are many similarities between Stoicism and Easter teachings. You might want to check out Antonia Macaro’s book More than Happiness, which looks at the similarities between Stoicism and Buddhism. I find it a great book.

      Glad you don’t need to go and live in the forest 🙂
      Just like the ancient Stoics, they were highly engaged in life.

      All the best with practicing.

  • Milos says:

    Great article. This year I got an Amor Fati tattoo and it is a complete life motto. It sums it all up and all civilizations had it in one form or another. The Chinese would also say: there are two things you should not worry about; the things that you can control and the things you cannot control. You inspired me to make an article on Amor Fati mentality in sports. Cheers!

  • CaseyJones says:

    This is exactly the remedy. Thank you. Thankyou. Sincere gratis
    Cynthia Anderson

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